Relationships are the most important things in life. Nothing matters more. Harmony in personal relationships are the key to a happy and satisfying life. Nothing is worth the loss of those original feelings we had for the person we fell in love with. Relationship Harmony retreats show you how not to bruise the ones you love, and how to recover from the bruises that are there. At Therapy Retreats we do not go in for 'psycho-archaeology', the usual ineffective practice for couple counselling. There is no airing of grievances for an hour at great expense and then being ejected back in to your usual round of work and family pressures until next week! We look forward to what is possible, not what you have been doing wrong for years. The focus is on developing the skills of communicating, understanding and sensitivity to the needs of others for those wanting to strengthen, enhance, or save a relationship. This retreat is for making or maintaining relationships at all stages and at all ages.
Therapy Retreats ‘Relationship Harmony’ programme is held in an environment which is encouraging and understanding. You will find a sympathetic ear and a reassuring approach. Soon you will be learning the ‘secrets’ that give you the power to alter your lives for the better; to enhance and enrich your relationship for the years ahead.
You will feel you have invested wisely in your most valuable asset – your marriage or relationship, and leave with a greater confidence in whatever the future may bring. This retreat has a growing reputation for delivering positive relationship changing results from the very first session. A unique approach to solving even the most difficult situation ensures this. You will not be asked to unpick the past years of suffering but to immediately focus on what you could achieve for the future - and, more importantly, how to do it. Our therapies for this programme are devised according to the individual and unique needs of each client couple. It is certainly not a case of 'one fits all' as relationship issues vary with every couple.
"Not easy but David 'fast tracks' to the heart of our issues. By the end it helped our relationship in a way I thought would not be possible. We left the weekend not only with a renewed optimism in our marriage but also in ourselves. "
Megan and Paul, Wales. October 2016
"Unlike other therapists David doesn't just listen and talk - he probes, provokes and stimulates thinking and sets tasks and objectives. Provides suggestions for appropriate action. David really gets to the crux of the matter. Very perceptive. Worth all the work to be rewarded with positive results."
Glyn and Sue, Hampshire. October 2016
"Expertly guided to get our relationship back on track. David offered a fresh perspective to our long established patterns of unhelpful behaviour plus tools to help us change things". "The retreat from start to finish is for couples that truthfully are there to really work. The outcomes and rewards reflect the work put in. Very pleased with content as the programme was flexible and tailored to meet our needs. We would highly recommend David."
Brian and Rebecca, Somerset. July 2016
"David has a knack for retrieving useful information from extremely unhelpful arguments. Insightful, empowering and incredibly helpful. Referred by friend, I'd recommend it!"
Alan and Robin, Glos. March 2016
"Amazing experience. Straight to the point. Tackled the issue head-on, no going round. This is exactly what we needed. So pleased we went ahead with it"
Claudia and Gavin, London, March 2016
"Arrived hopeless, left with a completely new sense of hope and optimism. Wonderful and life-affirming."
James and Effie, London, February 2016
"We cannot recommend this retreat too highly or find a better way of investing in your relationship. So, in summary, 'Don't get divorced; get David'."
Richard and Sarah, Midlands. January 2016
"The weekend has opened our eyes to where our relationship went wrong, and then brought us together again. David is able to see the wood for the trees and make sense of an overwhelming amount of information to help you get to the heart of the problem. No beating about the bush - straight to the point!"
Michael & Vanya, London, January 2016
"3 days with David has totally changed our perspective and offered solutions to issues previously thought insurmountable. Recommend wholeheartedly."
Matthew & Catty, January 2016
"Our only regret is not coming to David sooner. What a difference just a few days can make. Thank you for giving me back my husband". "We would unreservedly recommend 'Therapy Retreats' to anyone experiencing relationship difficulties. Keep up the good work. Found it far better than 'Relate' counselling."
Jackie & Claude, December 2015
"After completing a 5 day retreat with David we can feel the change in our marriage. David has definitely given us the tools we needed to live in harmony with each other. Still going strong after the retreat and putting what we learnt into practice."
Lynette & Aaron, London
"After struggling consistently throughout our 17 years of marriage this retreat was very effective and eye opening. David's questioning pushed deeper, but I trusted he knew what he was doing. I felt he was going to focus on what precisely we needed in our marriage. I would absolutely recommend this retreat."
"We arrived in low spirits! David very skilfully unpicked the mess we had got ourselves into. His straight talking and knowledge coupled with his ability to get to the heart of the matter quickly has put back where we wanted to be - feeling happy, relating to one another positively and excited about our future."
Sarah & Adam, Oxford
"David's retreat was just what we needed at a crucial point in our marraige. It was very focused and I loved David's direct and no-nonsense approach, and putting the past behind us. Our issues were brought to the surface and dealt with. I left feeling focused and that our marriage will be stronger". "David deconstructed all the obstacles that were making our marraige impossible to navigate and showed us clear and simple pathways to recreate a happy, loving and successful marriage."
Lee & Anne, London
"I had lost faith in our relationship, but David's retreat gave me not only hope but even planted a seed of new love. Where there is a will there is a way and this retreat showed us the way. It addressed all the areas that were important to us. Very efficient and focused."
Anne & Eric, Denmark
"We've tried every therapy going but with no success. This new approach, not going over past hurts, feels like it can not only have a hugh impact on our relationship but also to our lives in general." "Very different approach but very direct and valid understanding of our issues helping us to move forward."
The above testimonial from a couple wishing to remain anonymous.
"David understood our needs and broke everything down simply. No 'psychobabble' as promised but a really in-depth programme which covered skills for life. He really understands how the mind works and how we can all train ourselves to think differently. The hospitality, beautiful setting and the intense programme content met all our needs."
Roy and Fiona, Birmingham
"David helped us to identify key issues and guided us to address them in a calm and effective manner. We left the retreat in a positive state and are excited to work on our marriage a day at a time. Talmage is a lovely venue. Quiet, peaceful, very relaxing and calm atmosphere."
Nat and Chris, Herts.
"A long way to come but worth it. Saved me a multi-million dollar divorce! Hard to believe we couldn't find anything like it at home. Thanks David."
Arthur and Susan, USA
"Dear David, We want to thank you very much for our retreat. This was a watershed for both of us - we have continued to practise all aspects of your programme, using co-counselling when we feel the need and both of us have sped up the process of letting go. We find ourselves, now, in a much happier and more harmonious place and look forward to the future with great anticipation. Thank you very much for a most effective counselling experience."
Peter and Ann, London
"I wish we had found this retreat a long time ago! I would recommend it to any couple needing help and guidance. So much more effective than all the time we wasted with those week by week sessions. We were initially about to separate and David has helped us back to a place where we feel positive and optimistic about our future together. He is very warm, professional, direct and no fluff! Thank you for your guidance and strategies."
Chris & Heidi, Leicester
"Things are going good. Following our retreat we had a lovely holiday in France and came back from it feeling happy and rested. We are still thinking about the ideas and strategies explained to us and we are both glad that we went on the retreat. The retreat meant to much to Kevin as it did to me."
Kevin & Sue, London
"This was so much cheaper than the expensive divorce we had been considering before this retreat; both emotionally and financially. A real life-line at our make-or-break point."
"David was the perfect guide for what we were looking for - someone to help us focus on the future and to help arm us with the skills to get back on track and choose a different way of thinking about our lives and where we wanted to go. David is a skilful communicator and I will always value the guidance he gave us, and the toolbox we left the retreat with. If you are serious about committing to a future where you learn from the past but don't want to be restricted by it, then I highly recommend David."
The techniques used are drawn from Cognitive Behavioural Couple Therapy (CBCT), Integrative Behavioural Couple Therapy (IBCT), Cognitive Hypnotherapy including Visual Imagery, Mindfulness Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (mCBT), meditative and distress reduction programmes, a number of psycho-spiritual concepts and our unique approach to 'Fast Time Therapy' (FTT). Our use of FTT obviates the distressing need for couples to address the pain of the past, so common in most relationship counselling and which is responsible for the unsuccessful outcomes of a lot of weekly counselling sessions. This approach forms the basis of our relationship programme.
We have high expectations that a retreat of a few days to a week will eliminate or overcome the issues being addressed, no matter how long our clients have experienced these ‘symptoms’ in the past. Our intense programme ensures a focus on change for the better throughout the retreat. Many of our clients have had extensive counselling in the past which has failed to resolve their issues. Research has shown that counselling that focuses on past problems is counter-productive and only serves to increase negativity and resentment. In other words, it often makes the problems worse. One of the key features of this programme is our focus on future improvement and not on past suffering or delving into the past of the relationship. This is not a 'Relate' or NHS style programme. We are more concerned with what you need to do right tomorrow and not what you have been doing wrong in the past. Obvious, but frequently ignored!
On a personal note, I'm David Keighley, therapist / director of 'Therapy Retreats', and I lead the 'Relationship Harmony' retreats personally. I have been helping save and strengthen relationships for nearly four decades now and I am experienced in understanding the everyday practicalities of a shared life. No matter what brings you to this retreat and no matter how severe you think your problems are, take comfort in the fact that I will have seen them many times before. I also think it is important to explain to clients the essential emotional, psychological and neurological processes which underlie success in not only maintaining a relationship, but making it flourish. Unless you understand these dynamics it is unlikely you will be able to make progress.
Staying in love with the person you fell in love with takes a bit more effort. After all, you put a lot of money, work and effort into your career or hobbies, why not put the same effort into your relationship? I hope it helps and reassures you that my (first and only) wife and I celebrated our Ruby Wedding anniversary in 2014 - I hope you will let me assist you with yours! I work on the 'car-mechanic' basis of relationship counselling: I would rather have my car repaired by a mechanic whose car was running smoothly rather than by one whose car kept breaking down. I hope it makes sense to choose your relationship therapist by the same criteria. Our unique 'Relationship Harmony' and 'Save Your Marriage in Three Days' programme were our most successful retreats in 2017 and are proving to be even more popular this year.
Our 3-Day 'Relationship' Retreat Objectives
SESSION 1 : To understand and eliminate past barriers to a harmonious relationship.
SESSION 2 : To establish deep understanding of reasons for failure and ways to achieve future success.
SESSION 3 : To provide TOOLKIT to maintain progress made and ensure future strengthening.
"The only advice you should seek is from those with long and successful marriages behind them. They're the only therapists worth listening to."
Good advice as this is a question most couples are reluctant to ask a therapist before counselling starts.