Relationship Harmony

Relationships are the most important things in life. Nothing matters more. Harmony in personal relationships are the key to a happy and satisfying life. Nothing is worth the loss of those original feelings we had for the person we fell in love with. Relationship Harmony retreats show you how not to bruise the ones you love, and how to recover from the bruises that are there. At Therapy Retreats we do not go in for 'psycho-archaeology', the usual ineffective practice for couple counselling. There is no airing of grievances for an hour at great expense and then being ejected back in to your usual round of work and family pressures until next week! We look forward to what is possible, not what you have been doing wrong for years. The focus is on developing the skills of communicating, understanding and sensitivity to the needs of others for those wanting to strengthen, enhance, or save a relationship. This retreat is for making or maintaining relationships at all stages and at all ages.

Therapy Retreats ‘Relationship Harmony’ programme is held in an environment which is encouraging and understanding. You will find a sympathetic ear and a reassuring approach. Soon you will be learning the ‘secrets’ that give you the power to alter your lives for the better; to enhance and enrich your relationship for the years ahead.

You will feel you have invested wisely in your most valuable asset – your marriage or relationship, and leave with a greater confidence in whatever the future may bring. This retreat has a growing reputation for delivering positive relationship changing results from the very first session. A unique approach to solving even the most difficult situation ensures this. You will not be asked to unpick the past years of suffering but to immediately focus on what you could achieve for the future - and, more importantly, how to do it. Our therapies for this programme are devised according to the individual and unique needs of each client couple. It is certainly not a case of 'one fits all' as relationship issues vary with every couple.

Retreat Details & Fees

How Does It Work?

The techniques used are drawn from Cognitive Behavioural Couple Therapy (CBCT), Integrative Behavioural Couple Therapy (IBCT), Cognitive Hypnotherapy including Visual Imagery, Mindfulness Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (mCBT), meditative and distress reduction programmes, a number of psycho-spiritual concepts and our unique approach to 'Fast Time Therapy' (FTT). Our use of FTT obviates the distressing need for couples to address the pain of the past, so common in most relationship counselling and which is responsible for the unsuccessful outcomes of a lot of weekly counselling sessions. This approach forms the basis of our increasingly popular "Save Your Marriage in Three Days" retreat.

We have high expectations that a retreat of a few days to a week will eliminate or overcome the issues being addressed, no matter how long our clients have experienced these ‘symptoms’ in the past. Our intense programme ensures a focus on change for the better throughout the retreat. Many of our clients have had extensive counselling in the past which has failed to resolve their issues. Research has shown that counselling that focuses on past problems is counter-productive and only serves to increase negativity and resentment. In other words, it often makes the problems worse. One of the key features of this programme is our focus on future improvement and not on past suffering or delving into the past of the relationship. This is not a 'Relate' or NHS style programme. We are more concerned with what you need to do right tomorrow and not what you have been doing wrong in the past. Obvious, but frequently ignored!

A Message From David

On a personal note, I'm David Keighley, therapist / director of 'Therapy Retreats', and I lead the 'Relationship Harmony' retreats personally. I have been helping save and strengthen relationships for nearly four decades now and I am experienced in understanding the everyday practicalities of a shared life. No matter what brings you to this retreat and no matter how severe you think your problems are, take comfort in the fact that I will have seen them many times before. I also think it is important to explain to clients the essential emotional, psychological and neurological processes which underlie success in not only maintaining a relationship, but making it flourish. Unless you understand these dynamics it is unlikely you will be able to make progress.

Falling In Love Is Easy

Staying in love with the person you fell in love with takes a bit more effort. After all, you put a lot of money, work and effort into your career or hobbies, why not put the same effort into your relationship? I hope it helps and reassures you that my (first and only) wife and I celebrated our Ruby Wedding anniversary in 2014 - I hope you will let me assist you with yours! I work on the 'car-mechanic' basis of relationship counselling: I would rather have my car repaired by a mechanic whose car was running smoothly rather than by one whose car kept breaking down. I hope it makes sense to choose your relationship therapist by the same criteria. Our unique Relationship Harmony 'Save Your Marriage in Three Days' programme was our most successful retreat in 2016 and looks to be even more popular this year.

Our 3-Day 'Relationship' Retreat Objectives

SESSION 1 : To understand and eliminate past barriers to a harmonious relationship.

SESSION 2 : To establish deep understanding of reasons for failure and ways to achieve future success.

SESSION 3 : To provide TOOLKIT to maintain progress made and ensure future strengthening.

"The only advice you should seek is from those with long and successful marriages behind them. They're the only 'counsellors' worth listening to."

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Good advice as this is a question most couples are reluctant to ask a therapist before counselling starts.

Helping you to address the 7 essential issues of successful couple counselling:

  • Acceptance
  • Communication
  • Empathy (understanding)
  • Expressed affection
  • Forgiveness
  • Intimacy
  • Trust

And to make progress with:

  • Overcoming the past and staying together
  • Reclaim lost warmth, tenderness and love
  • Improve personal communication and understanding of partners needs
  • Break the arguing cycle
  • Lose silences and sulks
  • Dramatically reduce the distress of a difficult relationship while it heals
  • Break toxic habits

  • Grow closer, not apart
  • Develop greater intimacy
  • Prevent feeling bored, stuck and frustrated
  • Resolve persistent disagreements
  • Learn the true nature of love
  • Cope and rebuild trust after an affair
  • Remove feelings of jealousy
  • Strengthen honesty and trust
  • Keep things 'hot' and laugh a lot
  • Reveal your future potential

These individual couple retreats take place at various venues.